Portrait of a typical RMF gathering, where tea and coffee is consumed and matters of the highest order discussed. Okay, I embellish the truth: the reality is that we seem to meet in McDonald's, usually ordering fries, doughnuts, apple pies, and ice-cream ... but that's not the point !The end of year edition of
The Economist never fails to provide some treats. Here are some choice quotes from an excellent report on the
art of conversation:
A great description of what conversation is all about:
For enthusiasts conversation is an art, one of the great pleasures of life, even the basis of civilised society. Mme de Staël, a great talker and intellectual of the French ancien régime, called conversation “a means of reciprocally and rapidly giving one another pleasure; of speaking just as quickly as one thinks; of spontaneously enjoying one's self; of being applauded without working...[A] sort of electricity that causes sparks to fly, and that relieves some people of the burden of their excess vivacity and awakens others from a state of painful apathy”.
Here, the French have elevated conversation to a higher level:
The conversation of the French salons and dinner tables became as stylised as a ballet. The basic skills brought to the table were expected to include politesse (sincere good manners), esprit (wit), galanterie (gallantry), complaisance (obligingness), enjouement (cheerfulness) and flatterie. More specific techniques would be required as the conversation took flight. A comic mood would require displays of raillerie (playful teasing), plaisanterie (joking), bons mots (epigrams), traits and pointes (rhetorical figures involving “subtle, unexpected wit”, according to Benedetta Craveri, a historian of the period), and, later, persiflage (mocking under the guise of praising). Even silences had to be finely judged. The Duc de La Rochefoucauld distinguished between an “eloquent” silence, a “mocking” silence and a “respectful” silence. The mastery of such “airs and tones”, he said, was “granted to few”.
I think this is a bit much, and prefer the first description, which doesn't try to turn the art in to a science. The second description just seems to impose way too much structure on conversation. Anyway, moving on to my final quote, Samuel Johnson notes with seemingly stereotypical anti-French sentiment:
Samuel Johnson: “A Frenchman must always be talking, whether he knows anything of the matter or not; an Englishman is content when he has nothing to say.”